Freedom Is The Greatest Gift.
As we were growing up, my sister and I had the privilege of enjoying a lot of freedom. However, we didn’t fully appreciate it at the time.
As I reflect on my past, I can now see how many privileges my mother gave us, especially compared to others. Back then, I didn’t fully appreciate it, but now I do. Whenever we asked for permission to do something, my mother would often say “OK” instead of “NO.” This was different from my grandmother, who was very strict and wanted us home before sunset. I didn’t understand why my grandmother criticized my mother for giving us so much freedom. I didn’t like how my grandmother would limit us without explaining why, but my mother’s laid-back approach helped us build a stronger bond. I feel comfortable discussing anything with my mother, and I have always been honest and transparent with her. This has helped shape my character into what it is today.
My mother once told us that parentings and relationships are like holding sand in your hands. If you squeeze too tightly, the sand will slip away and hurt you. But if you hold it loosely, the sand will stay.
This is true for life too. If you cling too tightly to someone, they may run away. It’s better to let go and be there for them. That’s how my mother has always been.
My mother gave us the freedom to choose our own routines, friends, and hobbies. She trusted us to make the right decisions by giving us options. While I used to complain about not having certain privileges, I now realize that my mother gave us the best gift of all — freedom with trust, which is crucial for growth.
She trusted us to make the right decisions by giving us options.
She never told us what to do.
My mother didn’t teach us how to do household chores or make our beds in the morning, but instead, she demonstrated by doing them for us. She showed us through her actions, not words, and rarely gets angry. However, she tends to stay quiet or throw random things away when she does (rarely happens). Although she’s not excellent at expressing herself verbally, her actions speak volumes.
Do what you want but with limits.
Although my mother is open-minded, she still has strong beliefs that she upholds. She sets clear boundaries for us but also gives us the freedom to explore. I appreciate how she holds us responsible for our actions. She is not very confrontational; if we make mistakes, she handles it with kindness and understanding. This is why my sister and I strive never to let her down. We feel trusted by her.
I’ll be fine. You should go out and explore.
My mother expresses concern when we travel alone or visit places that are too hot or unsafe, but she never forbids us from going. Instead, she shares stories of potential hardships and emphasizes the importance of preparation. Despite the risks, she grants us the freedom to explore.
Ultimately, freedom is one of the best gifts you can give someone.
Lesson learned.
I am grateful to my mother for teaching me the true meaning of love. Love is not about control, jealousy, or selfishness. Instead, it is about compromise, tolerance, care, and kindness. If you love someone, you understand the value of letting them grow and thrive independently.
Through observing my mother’s actions, I learned what a healthy relationship should look like. The most incredible privilege I have experienced is the freedom to choose and let go.
